Let’s get this straight – a big ego is a horrible color on anybody.
I’ve always been a modest type of person that looked after others. But, I’ve known many self-centered people that couldn’t fit their heads through the doors.
Don’t get me wrong, it is okay to put yourself high on the list.
In my opinion, people that have big egos are blind.
They are blind to what really matters and their values are skewed. Sure, everyone wants to be successful and get what they want. But, with a large ego other people may back down and keep their distance which could actually give you the opposite result – failure.
Some believe that an egocentric mind is no different from one that is a narcissist. I can see why people could think that, but are they really wired the same?
- Believing that you’re better than others
- Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness
- Exaggerating your achievements or talents
- Expecting constant praise and admiration
- Believing that you’re special and acting accordingly
- Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings
- Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
- Taking advantage of others
- Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
- Being jealous of others
- Believing that others are jealous of you
- Trouble keeping healthy relationships
- Setting unrealistic goals
- Being easily hurt and rejected
- Having a fragile self-esteem
- Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional
You may know people with some of these listed above, but don’t fret – it may just be over-confidence. A narcissist would put themselves “above” everyone else, but someone that doesn’t have this disorder would still consider themselves worth as much as everyone else.
Blindness is included in narcissism as well as a big ego, because people do not see outside themselves and only see what will benefit them. They are blind to other people’s feelings, values, and their own morals (or what should be). This is unfortunate and could affect everyone that knows the person, especially if it is more than a big ego.
I have seen the fall of connections towards friends and family that had these characteristics and it is hurtful to everyone that tries to stay connected. A large ego, I can deal with, but no one can deal with the constant hatred that comes from someone that feels like they should have the right to hurt others.